Went it's complicated from in a relationship with Malaysia

I love Malaysia just because of 1 simple yet silly reason;

I am able to wear short pants without getting dirty flirt from random strangers

Unlike in Indonesia

It is hard to wear short pants without getting whistle from strangers

Suit suit... amoy amoyyyyy! 

Yes that is the most common line you can easily hear if you see a lady wear short pants

My relationship with Malaysia went quite well until..

I went through a deepest darkest night

when the first time in my life

my handbag was snatched by unknown thief

However, this is not the point that made me sad and disappointed the most

Despite I have lost quite large amount of money and ATM cards

I have figured out an extremely bitter reality in life

Here goes the 'exciting' part..

I went to police station and made a report

First thing they asked is not are you okay? What is your name? When was the incident happen?

But the asked,

You cina keh? (Are you Chinese?)

at that time I was so tired and I just nodded my head

In the end, they not allowed me to make a police report because I did not bring my passport

I never knew how smart the polices nowadays.

Can you imagine if I bring along my passport? It will gone together with my handbag and what is the point?

It just a big OH GOSH *face palm* for me

So, the next day which is today I went to another police station bring along my passport

Life is getting more interesting when the first question came out from a female police mouth was

You cina keh? (Are you Chinese?)

Honestly speaking, I opened my mouth around 3 seconds and wondering if it is appropriate to ask race matter when something terrible happened to victims.

So now I am getting smarter (I guess)

I replied,

No, I am an Indonesian

Seems not satisfied with my answer, she said,

Ya, Chinese Indon kan?

I gave her another face palm and said,

Half- half la miss

(hoping she can gave a wild guess that I am half Chinese half Korean haha!)

She reassured herself by saying,

Ya la, you Chinese

I was -.-

What a pathetic live when people put high attention in racial matters

I just do not get it until now

What's wrong being Chinese?

What's the point of having the culture of 1Malaysia then?

I never proud of being Chinese

And I never have the intention of not helping people who are different race with me

different race is not a good excuse of not helping others

We are humans afterall

When we die

whether our bodies will be buried or burnt

Don't you think that in the end, skin color does not matter anymore?

Readers,

What I want to tell in my piece of writings is not to blame anyone

Please pay respect to people regardless their races, religions and ethnics

If you not start from now,

then who else will?

Remember, everything starts from yourself in order to make the world a better place to live.

Mistake

I have a staff

Her name is Annie

She was very clumsy

She has been working with me and my business partner for a month

Throughout one month she can't even make a pancake

Even my partner taught her thousand times

how to make a pancake

it is very simple and easy

Everyone can do it.

He always demonstrate how to make a pancake

demonstrate it very specific

and he said "this is how easy it is, now you make it for me and make sure it's same like I taught you earlier"

Yet, she still failed, failed and failed

until  my partner give up on her

Today,

I ask my partner to go out

and let me take care the stall

I came to Annie and said

"let's play a game called making pancake

You see how I make it for you one time

and you make one for me

you are feel free to make as many mistakes as you want

since boss is not here yet

lets finish the flour mixture

We got a lot to be wasted"

Surprisingly,

She made a very perfect pancake for me

without failed at all

I was shocked

She was more shocked than me either

However now I know the reason Annie can do very well

Because I am giving her chance to make as many mistakes as she wants

cause we are just human after all

Making mistake is very normal

No matter how well we do things in our lives

still there is point when we screw up

People make mistakes

many people stop trying

some of them keep trying but repeat the same mistake over and over again

but only few keep trying but change the approach and strategy until meet the success

For parents, teachers, and you

who never let yourself or your kids and your students make mistake

think again

because the mistakes that we make

can lead us to a bigger goal

can build us to become a better individual

as what Thomas Edison said

I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded

is another step forward

Thanks for giving few minutes of your time

to read my post

I wish you learn something today.

Wake Up Call

It’s been like forever I never update anything AT ALL to this blog

My life has changed in 22 October 2011.

Few weeks before 22 October 2011, I received a call from my sister from China. She was very panic and she said, “Ci (Elder Sister), I heard papa is sick right now. Have you heard anything from mama?” At that time I was on the way to my class and I felt very much VERY MUCH horrible when I received her call.

I said, “No, Mama didn’t tell me anything” she asked me to call Indonesia the soonest she hang up the call.

I called my mom and she tried to calm me down by saying “Your dad is okay, don’t worry.”

I felt quite LOST at that time. I felt so useless, so powerless until I saw a booth about business competition that organized by MoneyTree.

I came there and registered with no specific reason. Maybe it because the useless feeling that I felt after receiving the call until I was so blur and zombically walked to that shiny booth. @_@

 Around 19 October 2011, I received an email about a business seminar organized by Entrepreneurship and Investment Club on 22 October 2011. 

I knew nothing about this club; I had a football match I wanted to watch so I really can’t join the seminar. However, there is a little voice inside my heart, telling me that I should go.

 Until now I don't know how I actually gave up my football match to attend 3 hours seminar it's still ZOMBIcally follow my heart

It was the first time in my life

I came to a seminar I did not know anyone around there

I knew nothing about business

in short, I get away from my comfort zone.

Here's the interesting part

I met three incredible speaker. Mr Rajeet, Mr. Brandon and Miss Carol.

Mr Rajeet began his speech with a short real story

it's about team of researchers analyse the importance of having a goal

So they went to an university and gave ONLY ONE question to 100 students who will be graduating soon.

The question is:

What is your GOAL?

78% of them did not have any goal at all. They only want to enjoy a long holiday after being free from uni life.

19% of them have their goal in mind

and only 3% of them can write down their goal very specific

The researchers observe their life journey for 10 years

and this is a very interesting result

after 10 years, the 19% of the group who had goal in their mind earn income 2 times more than the 78% of the group who had no goal

3% of them who has their goal very specific earn 10 times more than the income of the 78% + 19% group

Honestly speaking,

at that time, I feel his speech about the importance of goal 

slap me really hard

cause I don't have goal.

If there is no people beside me and if the seminar only consist of me and the speaker

I will cry

I have a lot of things to cry about

For 19 years

I have been sleeping beautifully and peacefully

without asking myself

What do you want in life?

I feel I have died for so many years

I feel sorry to myself

It was a wake up call for me

The soonest I reach home I write my goals very specific

I will tell you one of my goals is to share everything that I know from the seminar

to those who are willing to learn and grow

together with me

finally I wake up and starting from that day

I occupied myself with a lot of seminars to know more about myself

which I am going to share with you

I make a promise to myself that I am going to lift people higher

I have achieved few goals I wrote 7 months ago

I feel so much joy in me now

cause I know what I want and how to achieve it

So I encourage you all to have goals in your life

Have a good day!

Start from people around you.

Hi readers, 

It's been a while since my last post

Now, back to blog

I want to share something

about a life lesson today

So about few weeks ago,

my university asked communication students including me to participate

in world food day

the main idea is Taylors University promise to pack one million of instant foods 

for people who are dying in hunger in Somalia

What should I do was to collect as much as amount of money

to buy one million of foods

I was so passionate to ask people around me to donate

because this is the least thing I can help

However,

today I am so angry with myself

Here the story goes..

I went to eat alone near my house

I ate mix rice without rice because I am on diet of carbohydrate

10 minutes later

four kids came to the stall and took away their foods

I saw all of them requested for a mountain of rice

with ONE FRIED EGG

they even asked to the shop owner

"how much does it cost if I buy rice with the egg's sauce?"

but the shop owner forced them to take at least one egg

can you imagine that

I feel so sad until now

I got enough money in my pocket to buy them a proper meal

I wanted to help them

but I do not know what was on my mind

until I just kept myself silent

My heart told me to say something

but my brain told me, "you better not, later people will judge you as a show off girl"

When they walked away,

 I am so ashamed with myself

I can asked people around to donate for people who I never seen before

but I cannot help those people who are needed around me

If I could turn back the time

I will ask them to get a proper meal

I think this is the least I can do

it's better than just sit down and get busy with my food

What Albert Einstein said is right

The world is dangerous not because of those who do harm, but because of those who look at it without doing anything

Lessons that I can learn from today:

Follow your heart.

You can start helping out people around you

Start from people in your environment

There is no point if we are so passionate in participating to reduce world's hunger

but we cannot help those who are needed right in front of our eyes

Lesson from a mechanic

Few months back

I watched Jason Statham's movie

called The Mechanic

in this movie

there's one of my most favorite scene

when a guy ask Arthur Bishop (Jason Statham) 

to kill his best friend, Harry McKenna (Donald Sutherland)

because of internal political issue that force him to die

At that night in the parking basement

Harry knew that someone will kill him

but unexpectedly he found out that his own best friend

is the one who assigned to do this dirty job

When Arthur point the gun to him

Harry manage to calm himself down and let his best friend shoot him

before killing him, Arthur asked

Arthur: Why do you let me kill you?

Harry: Because if it's not you, somebody else will.

I really love this line

and this movie really inspire me to forgive people who hurt me

because

being hurt by people is part of our life

what we can do is to forgive them

and think if he/she is not the one who hurts me,

somebody else will.

Well readers, this is only my point of view

how you can twist your feeling

from being sad because of your friend betrayed you

or your partner cheated on you

into a better understanding about life

that will always upside down.

Music is the common language of the world.

This is a light talk between you and me.

I've been watching a Korean drama series called Dream High

I won't elaborate more about the story line

but there is a sentence that I like most

Music is the common language of the world.

It's really true

Have you ever listened to song that you don't know what is the meaning

but yet it engages to your emotional and it affect your feeling?

It often happened to me.

Whenever I listen to a song

with a sad melody

I can automatically be sad

even I don't know the language that they use

Have you ever felt the same way?

the birth of A talking dust

Some loyal readers of by posts

often asked me

Why you name your blog A talking dust?

So here's my explanation

There are uncountable people in the world

who love to write just like me

who have worse condition compare to me

who been through a lot of hard times more than me

and, 

throughout those uncountable number of people

I feel super small

like a dust

who might be remain unseen

but this dust

able to touch people around it

and reach their heart through my pieces of writing

When I was in my first semester

one of my old lecturer said

To be successful you need two elements;

energy and wisdom

When you are young and green like this

you have lot of energy but lack of wisdom

When you are getting old like me

you have much wisdom but you don't have much energy left

and one of my classmate ask,

so how to be successful in the young age?

he continued,

you can gain wisdom through experiences

you can listen to other people experiences

so it will make you become wiser

and will avoid the same mistakes from their past

When I listen to my lecturer advice

I start to think

maybe I could write a blog

and can share my experiences and thoughts to people around me

at that time

the thought of making a Talking Dust was born

:)